2. MOOD KILLER? Some see asking for consent as a ‘mood killer’. But the mood is definitely ruined if your partner feels pressured and unsafe. Asking for consent can be as hot, creative and sexy as you want to make it. Or as simple as asking, ”Is this OK with you?” Be sure your partner is into it. Ask first. Make it sexy. Sex with consent is sexy. Sex without consent is rape. Respect yourself. Respect your partner.