poster 4


4. DO YOU GIVE IT?  Be sure you want him as much as he wants you. Ask yourself, “Is this OK with me?” Give consent. Or don’t give consent. It’s always your choice. Sex with consent is sexy. Sex without consent is rape. Respect yourself. Respect your partner.

Tell us what you think. Comment here. 9 Comments


  1. Biata says:

    You’re right Helen. Check out these posters: 25, 30, 40, 16 and 11 – they should address your concerns. Thanks!

  2. Helen says:

    Wait, “be sure you want him” — er, it goes both ways, right? and you’re not just talking about heterosexual couples, right? I think you need to be a lot clearer that men don’t default to consent any more than women do, and that consent is just as important in homosexual relationships as heterosexual ones. How that plays out on specific posters will vary, of course, but in the pictured situation, he needs to be sure he wants her, too.

  3. John says:

    Hi Charlia. We agree, the word ‘rape’ can be triggering. We’ve debated this point at CIS, and the consensus is that while this is undeniably true for some people, there are certain campaign messages that need to be made emphatically – without ambiguity. ‘Sex without consent is rape’ is one of those messages. Non-consensual sex is rape. And because many men and women don’t ‘get’ the truth of that – we feel we have to say it, in clear and simple language. And because non-consensual sex is rape, it’s therefore a criminal act, and should have serious legal consequences. Thanks for your comments.

  4. Charlia says:

    I think this is a great campaign, but have you considered NOT using the word rape? It is both a buzz word (and therefore often used to invalidate people’s experiences) and very triggering. I hope that this message is considered, thanks.

  5. Gladys says:

    Providing young people with the communication skills needed to either refuse, delay, or negotiate sex on terms they are comfortable with, is desperately needed to prepare them for the challenges they face. From what I can see, this campaign is a big step in that direction.

  6. Bongi says:

    So often we just follow the mood, but good to be reminded to ask yourself if you are totally OK with it. thanks, great message!

  7. Lindi says:

    You better get used to asking, mr cool – because women of today DEMAND that their men ALWAYS ask !

  8. mr cool says:

    I thought asking for consent is difficult but “Is this OK with you?” is easy to ask – anyone can ask for consent.

  9. Jen says:

    This poster is great! It makes me confident to set my boundaries.

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