5. ASKING FOR IT?  If she has a sexy style or attitude, then she could be accused of ‘asking for it’. Or ‘deserving’ sexual harassment, assault and even rape. This belief is wrong. It’s ignorant. And it’s dangerous. It keeps young women from being proud of their sexuality and blames them for being attacked. Be aware of sexist beliefs in yourself and others. Speak out. Be the change. Respect yourself. Respect the rights of others.

Tell us what you think. Comment here. 7 Comments


  1. Erich says:

    A woman in a relationship is repeatedly raped by her partner. Because there is a pattern of rape and it is predictable that rape will keep occurring … is she not responsible for removing herself from a dangerous situation? And, what about a woman who, in spite of being aware that she’s in a risky and potentially dangerous situation, chooses to get drunk or high – thereby further diminishing her ability to be aware of danger and respond to a threat. Doesn’t she have a responsibility to herself not to get drunk in a dangerous situation? Answering Yes to this question does not diminish the victimizer’s responsibility.

  2. Gabriela says:

    Erich, before I can accept your point, I want to hear examples of the victim’s “responsibility and irresponsibility”.

  3. Erich says:

    Rights come with responsibilities. In some situations, the victimizer is 100% responsible, end of story. Sometimes, it is reasonable to say that the victimizer is 100% responsible and the victim acted a little irresponsibly. Sometimes the victimizer is 100% responsible, and the victim acted very irresponsibly. Assessing the victim’s levels of responsibility and irresponsibility in each situation does not diminish the responsibility of the victimizer. The victimizer is responsible for their actions in each situation, and the victim is responsible for their actions in each situation.

  4. Melissa says:

    You are probably a victim-blamer if you find yourself asking questions like: What was she wearing? Why was she at his apartment in the middle of the night if she didn’t want sex? Had she been drinking or was she high? Did she yell and put up a fight? Why was she even in that part of town at that time of night? Why was she walking home alone late at night?

  5. Serena says:

    Women are often blamed – as though it’s their fault that men can’t control themselves. This poster tells it like it is – very important message.

  6. Spongebob says:

    OK – I’m not making excuses for morons who attack women or anything – but don’t women have a certain responsibility to not lead guys on? If her skirt is waaaay up to there and her top leaves nothing to my imagination then she’s definitely putting a sexual message out there – she’s got to be very naive not to know that. Don’t you think?

  7. Thandi says:

    Too often we betray our sisters by blaming them. Looking sexy doesn’t mean you’re asking for it. It ONLY means you like looking sexy.

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