9. DO YOU DO IT? Harsh criticism, hurtful gossip, name-calling, being bossy and controlling, jealous accusations, angry shouting, and dishonesty are kinds of abusive speech. We’ve all done it. We’ve all had it done to us. But if unchecked, abusive speech will break trust, undermine respect and create conflict. Speech which is caring and supportive will create better, stronger relationships. Be mindful of how you speak. Respect yourself. Respect others.