22. MAN ENoUGH? Man enough to accept ‘No’? It’s not always easy, but you don’t have to make it personal. She may have reasons for saying ‘No’ that have nothing to do with you. She may have beliefs about sex before marriage. She may not be ready for sex in your relationship. Or maybe she’s just not feeling sexy. Respect, self-control and caring about the well-being of others are true measures of a man of strong character. Sex with consent is sexy. Sex without consent is rape. Respect yourself. Respect your partner.