28. ASKING foR IT?  If she has a sexy style or attitude, then she could be accused of ‘asking for it’. Or ‘deserving’ sexual harassment, assault and even rape. This belief is wrong. It’s ignorant. And it’s dangerous. It keeps young women from being proud of their sexuality and blames them for being attacked. Be aware of sexist beliefs in yourself and others. Speak out. Be the change. Respect yourself. Respect the rights of others.

Tell us what you think. Comment here. 5 Comments


  1. Liz says:

    I agree 100% with Nazeema’s comment on the difference between showing sexual interest and other behaviours such as assault, forced sex and pestering someone.
    Dressing and acting to attract (sexual)attention is fine. Giving someone attention if you’re interested in them (because of how they look/dress or for any other reason) is fine. But if they make it clear they’re not enjoying the attention coming from you, you’ve got to stop or it becomes harassment. Why would anyone want to force their attention on someone who’s clearly not interested in them?

  2. Melissa says:

    You are probably a victim-blamer if you find yourself asking questions like: What was she wearing? Why was she at his apartment in the middle of the night if she didn’t want sex? Had she been drinking or was she high? Did she yell and put up a fight? Why was she even in that part of town at that time of night? Why was she walking home alone late at night?

  3. Nazeema says:

    ‘sexual interest’ is not the same thing as sexual pressure or force, Rudi.

  4. Rudi says:

    I don’t know about this – surely girls must also expect sexual interest if they dress sexy – or why dress sexy in the first place?

  5. Edward says:

    Women should be able to wear whatever they want without the threat of being attacked. Anyone who thinks men are ‘invited’ to harass or rape a woman because of what she’s wearing are just ignorant and backward.

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